I am not speaking as the expert in this blog, rather as the experiencer. The past 10 years of my life has been one crazy roller coaster. I have ran 300 miles in 4 ½ days, completed an Ironman and 70 something other endurance events, started a business and expanded that business; got married, had 3 daughters but tragically we lost 1; started another business, lost it; and yes there is more. But, I am not here to bore you into itemizing stories about my life; today I share my opinions on life balance and plain and simple, how I’ve been able to GET some SHIT DONE. And ultimately, I want to fire you up to accomplish your goals and aspirations.
Here is my take on a “balanced life”….It doesn’t happen. When you think about it, who wants to live at balance? I ask this question not necessarily knowing the answer but with my past experiences guiding my learning curve, I have realized that perfect life symmetry just does not happen. For the split second that you feel you are perfectly in control, let’s say balanced, BOOM! A blow comes down and smacks you in the face. Then the teeter-totter heads back down; when you reach the “ground”, there is only one way to propel yourself back up…You push yourself off the ground. You soar back up; enjoy the ride, only to hit the apex of the teeter-totter once again. It’s an ongoing process. How do you respond?
So you want to get in shape? But you have three kids between the ages of 4-8. You have work pressure as your boss is on you to close two big accounts. You haven’t gone on a date with your wife in 3 months. You feel sluggish, lack energy and the body aches. You are overwhelmed because of the three soccer games this weekend. Yeah, that’s a tough one.
Here are a few things I recommend: (remember, I am speaking as the experiencer, not the expert)
First, get things GREAT with your wife. Go on a date, like tonight! Make her your priority. Over work, over your kids, over your exercise, over everything, she is #1. When you have long days and want to crash on the couch the minute you get home, don’t be selfish, she needs help. Get up and go help! A happy wife equates to a happy life!
Second, make two small changes to your diet. Eat 4 servings of vegetables everyday and drink 65 ounces of water everyday. These two strategies, when built into habits, will snowball into other positive and healthy habits. Be consistent as it might take months, even years to form these habits. Do not try and revamp your entire lifestyle. This is a recipe to become even more overwhelmed and right now you need to destress, not add more. Instead, work on no more than 2 various strategies at a time. Do not move on until it is connected into your routine. When you feel ready to move on, choose 1 or 2 more habits to work on and go with the same process.
Third, find the time to exercise. We all have at least 30 minutes every single day for movement and exercise. Either wake up 45 minutes earlier in the morning or do it before you go to bed. YOU HAVE THE TIME. If you aspire to train for an event, like a triathlon or half-marathon, communicate your goals and time budget to your wife and family, then plan an efficient training schedule (or hire a coach), write in all of your workouts in your weekly calendar and go for it! You do not have to be the fittest person in the world. Just be the fittest YOU can be. What makes you happy? If running with your buddies makes you happy, go do it. What drives you? If looking good naked for your wife motivates you, then get to the gym. What are you willing to sacrifice? Late nights, social gatherings, sleeping in, processed foods… If you want to achieve big things in fitness, you have to make sacrifices.
Lastly, you must take 100% responsibility for your life. Eliminate excuses. Read the books that will help you grow. Exercise. Eat healthy (but indulge once in awhile). Build STRONG and positive relationships. Remove negativity and things that send you south. Keep going when SHIT gets hard. Don’t blame; find solution. Stay motivated! Be happy in the moment.
It is very easy to get complacent, lose productivity and ultimately lose motivation. You sit down and end up watching 2-3 hours of television, when you should have been reading or exercising or working on a project. We all can write a long list of excuses why SHIT is not getting done. But do no be the excuse maker. Be the ACTION taker.
This is a journey. And not to sound too philosophical, but life is a wild ride. You are going to win some and lose some. Some days will be harder than others. Some days you will want to stay in bed all day, but can’t because SHIT needs to get done. So GET UP! Rise today. Don’t worry about tomorrow just yet. Yesterday is gone, so move on. If you can dig deep and find your strongest self, this thing we call LIFE can be pretty amazing. Do not accept a mediocre life. Challenge and push yourself to your limits. Realize that it will be uncomfortable if you want to get SHIT done.
Do not search for a balanced life. Instead, be in pursuit of your ultimate self.
Remember, I got your back. Peace Out!